Diminishing friendship

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Inward insecurities
Cause you to pull away
Playing it safe
Has always been the easy way
Grieved by the judgement of others
And what they demand
You protect your heart
From what you cannot understand
A safety net you cling to
Never throwing caution to the wind
And by your disappearing act
No life can really begin
Suffering in silence
You hold the weight of the world inside
Never letting others in
For fear they may reside
It’s a sad life for sure
One full of many regrets
And only causes others to see
How deeply you’re upset
The time has come to decide my friend
If you can open up your heart
Never allowing others inside
Only hinders you from the start
It’s painful I’m sure
To let vulnerability have its way
But letting friends through the door
Is how you ultimately invite them to stay

Written by, Michelle Cook

 

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28 responses to “Diminishing friendship

  1. Thank you Tonya! Have a great day! 🙂

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  2. This is a powerful piece that resonates with me. Memories are flooding back, of chances lost to procrastination and delay. Well, I live in the moment now. Great Post!

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  3. Thank you… we can’t live in the past…. we’ve definitely got to move forward towards the future. And hopefully what we’ve learned from the past will help us to go further the next time. 😉

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  4. Thanks, Michelle. You, too. 🙂

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  5. Absolutely! I didn’t allow myself to be trapped in the past. That was my experience and the lesson learned in life. 🙂

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  6. So good to hear…. the past can really hold us back if we allow it too. 🙂

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    So well said… Opening up is hard, but it is the only way to get anywhere.

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  8. Thank you…. unfortunately some never get to this point.

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    I’ve met not a few eggs that could not be cracked. Because of the lack of openness, I hate to, but many times I have to just move on.
    I’m wondering if this is a theme for today. I’ve heard it reiterated in so many ways on the reader.
    Maybe it’s time. We can either be sealed in ourselves or simply sealed in Him where the outside world doesn’t need to see our facade.

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  10. It’s clearly a problem right now for so many and I think it boils down to trust issues. Many have been hurt so many times that they just can’t open the door to anyone else ever again. They just feel too vulnerable. It’s hard to help anyone who feels like this because no matter what you say, they will never believe that they won’t be hurt again and they are always thinking that everyone is out to deceive them. It breaks my heart, but I get it… as I myself trust very few and I’m beginning to trust even fewer.

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    Yes, we have a very tight circle of friends and not too many. You hit it on the nail. It is trust issues. How can we trust people after society as a whole conditions them to be phoney. It takes a great deal of willpower to be real and survive.
    On one hand we have to be more honest than honest so that a stone does not get overturned that we didn’t see coming. On the other, we have to guard our heart when we overturn that stone and another didn’t see it coming. It’s endemic, but it does eventually sort out who is real and who is not.
    I’m thankful for that. I want to end up with only those who are real, even if what’s left doesn’t qualify as anything close to a crowd.
    I wish people would understand that hiding doesn’t help them, it hurts them more in the long run. We need more real people, not more who are hiding from trust issues.
    Admittedly, it does take a spirit of discernment to know who is real and who is not.

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  12. And that’s the key… in the end it comes down to discernment…. although many aren’t able to discern who to trust and I believe only a rare few have the gift of discernment, so what are others to do? Trust blindly? It’s so hard…. it’s just like the faith we put in God, we can’t see or touch him, but we have faith that he is there and so we go on believing in him. When he allows us to go through trials though, sometimes we doubt he exists and so then we walk away. It’s the same way with friends, at first we put our trust in them, then when they start to let us down, we sometimes fail to continuing believing in them and just find it easier to walk away. Such a sad cycle…. I have only ever had a few close friends and when I have lost some of those few, I haven’t wanted to trust anyone ever again. Eventually if I do let somebody in, it never fails…. I’m back where I started. I’m tired of being heartbroken and sad by those who start to feel they have revealed too much and then they back away. If you open up your heart to somebody, you can’t just close it when you start to feel too vulnerable. That just ends up hurting the other person.

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  13. Beautiful poem. Love is worth the pain, and there is always pain. It’s what forms us into compassionate beings 🙂

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  14. And it’s why we get sucked in time and time again…. we crave the closeness of another… we cannot live happy lives without having a friend to share it with. 🙂

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    Michelle, I’m going to reply to these latest comments in the morning. That way I can do them justice.
    Thanks for sharing!

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  16. No problem… have a good night! 😉

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    There are several things addressed here. Discernment first. True, there are not many with the gift of discernment. This is tough. Then one must fall back on the experience that naturally comes afterwards. Once stung it is too late.
    The same goes with God. If we do not have a sensing connection there, we will end up on many occasions wondering if He is there or what He is doing.
    The solution lies not in repeatedly entering hurtful relationships in hopes that one will turn out differently, but in deepening our relationship with God, asking for and claiming the giftings we need in order to rightly understand what is going on. The spiritual gifts are there to help us sort all these out.

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  18. hey,
    just wanted to say hey! I’m feeling you girl!

    Really like your site here. Not for everybody, but the ones that stay are the ones that need to. And that’s okay by me!

    C u on the boards, at 201U!

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  19. Thanks Lisa! It’s great to meet you! 🙂

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  20. So true about deepening our relationship with God and I agree that our spiritual gifts will help us to sort everything out, but only when we choose to use those gifts and listen to him. We get so very lost when we try to do things our own way. It’s hard submitting to a higher authority, but if we really understand what it means to fear God… we will.

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    The fear of the Lord is the Highest rung on the ladder. It is also the most direct and fastest connection between us and Almighty, which is everything. The reason why it is called the “fear” is not because it is fearful. It is because once one has it, one realizes how indispensable it is, and know that they cannot proceed any further without it.

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  22. So true…. but unfortunately so few fail to realize this.

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    Few come to realize this? 🙂

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  24. Well yes, most think of fearing the Lord as simply being afraid of him. When it’s really about realizing his greatness and letting him have full control. He already does have full control, but so many seem to think that they have the power to do whatever they want. Everyone struggles with this. 🙂

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    So true. Very well said!

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